Is Pervasive, Powerful, and Purposeful
by A.J. Mahari
Loneliness is, on one level a universal experience. There is a collective experience,
to some degree, by each and every living individual of what it means, from time to time,
to be lonely.
The degree to which anyone finds loneliness a painful experience, of course, varies and is related to your level of personal awareness and to the choices that you have made and are making in your own life.
Loneliness is a pervasive, powerful, and purposeful event in life.
Loneliness, in some situations and circumstances is to be expected for a period of time.
In the case of the loss of a loved one, a pet, a relationship, or a job, for example,
there may be an increase in loneliness and the pain of loneliness as we struggle with
our feelings of grief. Grief can be emotionally isolating. If we are or feel emotionally
isolated we will feel lonely. And, more often than not it is painful.
Then there is an experience of loneliness that is more individual than collective. That is to say it is not just experienced because one
is a part of the collective main that is humanity and the common
experience of what it means to exist within that condition.
It is collective in that most individuals will experience it to some degree or other
over the course of a life time but is individual in its scope, purpose, function,
and meaning. If you are all-too familiar with a season of loneliness that is so painful
that you aren't sure you can really face it or survive facing it, you will benefit from
reading my ebook,
The pain of any season of loneliness that we encounter for whatever reason(s) has
purpose and needs to be addressed. All-too-often people run from it, avoid it at all
cost and deny this pain. Doing so only increases the depth and severity of the loneliness
being experienced, which in turn increases the pain that you end up feeling.
Loneliness - Its Challenges, Lessons, Purpose, Meaning, and the Promise of
Life Transformation. by A.J Mahari © October 26, 2006
A.J. Mahari, writes, "At the core of every human heart there is the paradox of the need and longing
for connection and the reality of loneliness inter-mixed with the desire for the joy and peace of the
solitude of aloneness."
This ebook is an examination of loneliness - including types of loneliness, causes of loneliness,
the lessons of loneliness, what to do about the pain of loneliness, how to cope with it. Along
with the challenges of loneliness, what they are and why they are, the lessons of loneliness - what
does loneliness really mean in our lives? Also explored and examined is the purpose and meaning of
loneliness and the promise it offers of life transformation.
This ebook, available now, is 204 pages - 9 chapters all about Loneliness
and the life affirming and transforming opportunities it presents us with through the
pain and struggles we encounter with it.
The Pervasiveness of Loneliness
A pervasive reality that is reflected in the fact that each one of us is
alone, is for many, too anxiety-producing, too fear-provoking, and too
vulnerable an experience. Yet, we come into this world, alone, and we must exit this
world, at some point, alone also. There is a reality of some separateness in who each one of us is, spiritually. For as much as we can share, in life, or perhaps beyond, there are moments, times, and events that call for us, if we are going to be healthy, to be able to be and to even seek out being alone and the alonetime of solitude.
The pervasive nature of the need to know how to be alone
and to be able to be alone comfortably is of paramount importance.
The opposite of knowing how to comfortably be alone
is the pain of loneliness. Experiencing and re-experiencing the often
searing pain of a loneliness you may feel compelled to avoid and that
you may believe you can't face and so deny, defend against, and avoid through
a variety of self-defeating, and often, self-harming pursuits and
compulsions, separates you, essentially from your self.
Being separated from your authentic self and living in and/or through a false self is a very painful and self-defeating, unhealthy pain-producing way to live.
Loneliness is pervasive because too many people choose not to
face it and because it can be very painful. It is also very
pervasive in human experience because we incur so many wounds in
childhood that go unresolved well into adulthood. These wounds
impede your ability to believe that you can face and cope with
the pain of our loneliness.
The Power of Loneliness
Loneliness is a powerful experience because it is most often
replete with pain. No one enjoys or wants this pain. It is often
thought, mistakenly so, that it is easier to avoid this pain
then to face it and feel it. This is just not true.
However, even more powerful than the pain of loneliness and
the extent to which so many people will go to avoid it, or deny
it, is the fact that loneliness is purposeful and has incredible
meaning. Loneliness is the harbinger of so much potential growth
and self-understanding. Choosing to cope with the pain of your
loneliness can mean the difference between remaining lonely and
in pain or freeing yourself from painful unresolved issues from
your past and living a healthier, more productive and rewarding
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The Reality of the Purpose of Loneliness
The reality of loneliness is that it has purpose. It is not just
something that causes you pain for absolutely no reason. It is not
detached from you, no matter how hard you may try to detach
yourself from it. It doesn't just happen to you. The power of loneliness
is that it seeks to bring to your conscious awareness by way of
life-changing lessons, lessons that help transform pain into purpose
and your past wounds into strengths, what you are choosing and what
you need to stop choosing in order to get different and more pleasurable
and/or successful results in your life.
Loneliness and its pain, faced and coped with, will teach you such incredible
life-changing lessons. Loneliness and its pain faced will increase
your awareness and insight into so much you need to know about yourself,
your authentic self in ways that will reveal to you the life-traps
of your choices and the way that you can transform your experience in life
by way of making healthier and much more effective choices.
To read much more about Loneliness and its pain, how to cope and how
to gain the necessary awareness it seeks to teach you, learn its lessons,
and transform your life please purchase my latest ebook, Loneliness -
It's Challenges, Lessons, Purpose, Meaning and its Promise of Life Transformation
© October 2006 A.J. Mahari
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