In this excerpt from a workshop that Life Coach and author, A.J. Mahari, held with a group of her clients working on learning to create and practice skills that help them achieve healthy time and space for self and for spiritual connection and resting, relaxing, and re-charging A.J. begins to layout the work that lies ahead on the journey to taking physical space and time and transforming it to an inner equanimity.
Science is now learning more about neuroplasticity by studying Tibetan Monks. Compassion is thought to be very central to gamma activity which is an example of neuroplastic change. There are many parallels between modern science and the Buddhism view.
Giving is even more important than receiving. Sometimes when people are really in emotional pain or aren’t sure who they are, maybe also suffering from low self-worth and low self-esteem, it can seem that one needs more than one has to give. In fact, the opposite is really true. Regardless of what we need giving to others in a law of attraction way is a positive and healthy way of not only becoming more aware of your own needs but also of meeting those needs, in time.
Paradox is balance. Be open to dissenting views and opinions knowing that they do not have to change yours or invalidate yours. Each to their own. You have as much right to your beliefs and feelings as anyone else has to theirs.
Life coach and author, A.J. Mahari, talks about the nature of toxic guilt that is born in and out of caretaking for the emotions and feelings of someone else while not taking care of one’s own emotions or feelings. This enmeshed, toxic, and codependent way of relating leaves many people not only being abused and victimized but also feeling guilty about that – feeling like some how they’ve done something to make their abuser abuse them. Toxic relationships do not contain healthy love. Toxic relationships block your personal growth, self improvement, and your ability to feel worthy enough to claim your own happiness.
Emotional dysregulation is a term often applied to the emotional experience of people diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) It is not limited to those with BPD, or even those who have any form of mental illness. Even people considered to have average mental health can and do experience emotional dysregulation. It is the absence of the practice and ability to live in and through emotional mastery.
Life Coach, Mental Health and BPD Coach, A.J. Mahari, now has a 38 minute audio available on the subject of Emotional Mastery. It is an introductory overview audio. You will benefit from listening to this audio and finding out more about Emotional Mastery generally and specifically more about A.J. Mahari’s Emotional Mastery Life Coaching programs and materials.