In the audio program, “Coping With Difficult Toxic and/or Abusive People” A.J. Mahari talks about the reality of coping with difficult, toxic and/or abusive people generally with a focus on the reality that holidays bring out the worst of the worst in toxic relating.
No one survives on their own, and no one thrives alone, either. Yes, you might feel an excruciating loneliness after one of life’s hurtful blows. But we are simply not built to survive solo. Isolation will kill us, not protect us. We humans are social animals made for community. Even when family and friends annoy [...]
The mystery of understanding seeks to engage us in a journey of living an examined life. A journey of seeking personal enlightenment. Do you find that there are aspects of your life that just seem to defy your understanding in actual and purposefully consciously aware ways? Are you a seeker of more personal enlightenment when it comes to aspects of your relationships, your attitude, your moods, and your over-all choices in your life?
What is on your mind, that is to say, what you focus on, is what will shape and justify your experience of yourself, of others, and of life. More people are becoming increasingly aware that how and what they think creates their experience. However, for many who are in great emotional pain the connection might [...]
Just because I can – I will. Just because I can I must find a way. Just because I can I have a responsibility to … Just because I can it would be letting myself down not to … Just because I can means that I have choices to make. Just because I can let [...]
Is Your BPD Loved One Serious About Therapy? What Every Family Member and Loved One with Someone With BPD in Their Lives Needs to Know
It is important for any family member or relationship partner of borderline to be able to evaluate how their loved one with borderline personality disorder (BPD) is progressing in terms of recovery, if in fact they are in therapy. It is equally as important for the family member or relationship partner of the person with BPD to understand that if the borderline in his or her life isn’t in therapy and continues to choose to not face their issues there is absolutely no way to effect change in that person. This is, for many, in and of itself, a crucial thing to radically accept and often is a pivotal choice point as well.
You will know … where you are going when you get there. You will know … so much more when you open to being a student of life. You will know … what you need the moment you open to the needing of it. You will know … that you can do better the moment [...]
In life there are many crossroads. There is not one major intersection of choice. There is rarely only one right way for most things in life to unfold or come to us or to teach us. There are many paths up the mountain for sure. There are many crossroads in life. Life’s crossroads are often [...]
Be willing and prepared to wait for what you most want and need. Trust that the winds that blow in your life today have purpose. Learn to wait. You can and will save yourself from so much unnecessary pain if you learn to wait and to proceed more slowly with caution in life. Trust your [...]
The Legacy of Toxic Relationships – Where The Personality Disordered and The Non Personality Disordered Interconnect and Suffer
Toxic relationships seem to be pervasive to the point where healthy relationships are in the minority. Toxic relationships are proliferating and have been doing so for the better part of the last few decades. Toxic relationships are the coming together of adults, who carry wounded children deep inside of them, and who were raised in [...]