Insecure Attachment in Borderline Personality Disorder – Rage and Abuse
Posted by A.J. Mahari on September 20, 2007 · Leave a Comment
The roots of abuse, particularly in intimate significant other relationships of those with BPD, have their genesis in the borderline’s re-living of this deep intra-psychic pain. It is emotional pain that is triggered through attempts to be emotionally intimate with someone else. The intimacy that non-personality-disordered people enjoy is stressful and overwhelming to the borderline. It enlivens the borderline’s worst nightmare and causes him or her to re-live his or her unresolved core wound of abandonment pain. It arouses all the maladaptive defences of the borderline because he/she re-experiences the terror and panic of either his/her past experience of feeling annihilated or engulfed and/or his/her fear of being annihilated or engulfed, often alternately, when trying to be close to someone one else.
Filed under Abuse · Tagged with abandonment, Abuse, bonding, borderline abuse, borderline personality, bpd, false self, insecure attachment, love hate, manipulation, narcissism, non borderline, nonbp, npd, rage
