Life coach and author, A.J. Mahari, talks about the nature of toxic guilt that is born in and out of caretaking for the emotions and feelings of someone else while not taking care of one’s own emotions or feelings. This enmeshed, toxic, and codependent way of relating leaves many people not only being abused and victimized but also feeling guilty about that – feeling like some how they’ve done something to make their abuser abuse them. Toxic relationships do not contain healthy love. Toxic relationships block your personal growth, self improvement, and your ability to feel worthy enough to claim your own happiness.
In the audio program, “Coping With Difficult Toxic and/or Abusive People” A.J. Mahari talks about the reality of coping with difficult, toxic and/or abusive people generally with a focus on the reality that holidays bring out the worst of the worst in toxic relating.
A.J. Mahari has recently launched her new website, Phoenix Rising Publications where you can purchase her Ebooks, Audio Programs, Life Coaching Services, Self Help Courses, and Educational Videos.
In this world there will always be some people who, for whatever constellation of reasons, need to tear down others in order to feel okay about themselves. There will always be people that cross our paths to criticize us and to attempt to dump a chunk of their own lostness, brokenness, and negativity upon us.
It is once again Mother’s Day. A day that for many is one for celebration and for others a day of grief. There is such a duality to Mother’s Day for many. It is a day of love and companionship for many mothers and their children and/or adult-children. It is a day mixed with both [...]
There is much at stake. Embracing the patterns of victimhood has cost the human race a great deal. Headlines of terrorism, violence, and disaster assault us with increasing frequency. And the mass of victims grows daily. Individuals blame one another. Communities put up walls. Nations blame nations. How can we turn the victim tide, reaching [...]
The struggle of humanity in an effort to gain, hold, and have power and control over our lives; often sees us, end up, not with the power, not with the control, but, rather feeling helpless and powerless. What is acted out in the name of this illusion of control and this reality of helplessness and [...]
The Legacy of Toxic Relationships – Where The Personality Disordered and The Non Personality Disordered Interconnect and Suffer
Toxic relationships seem to be pervasive to the point where healthy relationships are in the minority. Toxic relationships are proliferating and have been doing so for the better part of the last few decades. Toxic relationships are the coming together of adults, who carry wounded children deep inside of them, and who were raised in [...]
Wed Oct 24, 2007 "JOHANNESBURG (AFP) – South African police have begun probing allegations that a dormitory matron abused pupils at an elite girl’s school funded by US talk show queen Oprah Winfrey, police said Wednesday." "While police refused to give further details, a report in the weekly Rapport paper said the female matron is [...]
Light illuminates. Light enlivens. Light is the essence of a palpable serene spiritual synchronicity. Light is energy. You encompass endless enigmatic energy that is your spiritual essence and your light. Do not fear letting your light breathe. Unblock all of the barriers to the free expression and flow of your light, your energy, your spirituality, [...]