There are many legacies within the over all legacy of childhood sexual abuse. Each one of them is a journey of unfolding pain and possibility. Sexual abuse in childhood is a betrayal and is experienced as abandonment. Depending upon the age that one is sexually abused the consequences can be very dire indeed.
The struggle of humanity in an effort to gain, hold, and have power and control over our lives; often sees us, end up, not with the power, not with the control, but, rather feeling helpless and powerless. What is acted out in the name of this illusion of control and this reality of helplessness and [...]
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a formidable personality disorder. It is a complex and multifaceted mental illness that negatively impacts efforts to build relationships. In fact, if anything, the issues that those diagnosed with BPD have, often make relationships next to impossible to manage in any way that is constructive and age-appropriate.
Dr. Marsha Linehan pioneered one of the most popular therapies for the treatment of BPD called Dialectical Skills Training (DBT) One of the central principles of DBT, housed within the Distress Tolerance Module of Linehan’s Skills Training is Radical Acceptance.
Any form of abuse leaves its victims feeling worthless, less than, often lost to him or herself, and not having had a chance to develop the kind of healthy boundaries that would protect against future involvement with other abusive people. Many who were abused as children were abused within the kind of dysfunctional, toxic, and enmeshed family systems that do not teach, model, or even allow them to develop healthy boundaries. Carrying poor emotional boundaries (or lacking them altogether) is a major reason why abused children often grow up to get involved in abusive, enmeshed, and toxic relationships.