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Posted by A.J. Mahari on January 25, 2009 · Leave a Comment
There are many legacies within the over all legacy of childhood sexual abuse. Each one of them is a journey of unfolding pain and possibility. Sexual abuse in childhood is a betrayal and is experienced as abandonment. Depending upon the age that one is sexually abused the consequences can be very dire indeed.
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Posted by A.J. Mahari on February 19, 2008 · Leave a Comment
The struggle of humanity in an effort to gain, hold, and have power and control over our lives; often sees us, end up, not with the power, not with the control, but, rather feeling helpless and powerless. What is acted out in the name of this illusion of control and this reality of helplessness and [...]
Filed under Soul Thought of The Day · Tagged with abandonment, Abuse, aj mahari, bpd, domination, faith, helplessness, illusion of control, loss, meaning, narcissism, power and control, powerlessness, purpose, radical acceptance, Soul Thought of The Day, Spirituality, surrender, the moment
Posted by A.J. Mahari on September 22, 2007 · Leave a Comment
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is a formidable personality disorder. It is a complex and multifaceted mental illness that negatively impacts efforts to build relationships. In fact, if anything, the issues that those diagnosed with BPD have, often make relationships next to impossible to manage in any way that is constructive and age-appropriate.
Dr. Marsha Linehan pioneered one of the most popular therapies for the treatment of BPD called Dialectical Skills Training (DBT) One of the central principles of DBT, housed within the Distress Tolerance Module of Linehan’s Skills Training is Radical Acceptance.
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Posted by A.J. Mahari on September 20, 2007 · Leave a Comment
The roots of abuse, particularly in intimate significant other relationships of those with BPD, have their genesis in the borderline’s re-living of this deep intra-psychic pain. It is emotional pain that is triggered through attempts to be emotionally intimate with someone else. The intimacy that non-personality-disordered people enjoy is stressful and overwhelming to the borderline. It enlivens the borderline’s worst nightmare and causes him or her to re-live his or her unresolved core wound of abandonment pain. It arouses all the maladaptive defences of the borderline because he/she re-experiences the terror and panic of either his/her past experience of feeling annihilated or engulfed and/or his/her fear of being annihilated or engulfed, often alternately, when trying to be close to someone one else.
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Posted by A.J. Mahari on September 20, 2007 · Leave a Comment
Any form of abuse leaves its victims feeling worthless, less than, often lost to him or herself, and not having had a chance to develop the kind of healthy boundaries that would protect against future involvement with other abusive people. Many who were abused as children were abused within the kind of dysfunctional, toxic, and enmeshed family systems that do not teach, model, or even allow them to develop healthy boundaries. Carrying poor emotional boundaries (or lacking them altogether) is a major reason why abused children often grow up to get involved in abusive, enmeshed, and toxic relationships.
Filed under Abuse · Tagged with abandonment, betrayal, borderline, bpd, childhood abuse, dysfunctional families, enmeshment, legacy of abuse, narcissism, sexual abuse, toxic relating, toxic relationships, trauma bonds, unhealthy relationships, verbal abuse
