About

A.J. Mahari is a 53 year old woman who lives in Ontario, Canada. She is an Author, speaker, Life Coach, BPD/Mental Health Coach. She has been described by many as an insightful and astute student of life’s ups and downs, she is not, for the record, a mental health professional. A.J. writes all that she writes from a lot of reading, some College and University level education, and her own life experience. Therefore she asks that you keep that in mind as you read her writing – her Ebooks or listen to her Audio Programs or work with her as a Life Coach and Strategist

A.J. Mahari in her own words about herself:

“I am a sexual abuse survivor. I recovered from Borderline Personality Disorder 14 years ago. I am an adult living with Asperger’s Syndrome (“high functioning”). I feel so blessed to have had the journey that I have had so far. A journey that has at its center Emotional Mastery. At the center of emotional mastery is Self Mastery. Both Self Mastery and Emotional mastery are now central to my focus and philosophy both personally and professionally.”

“My journey has been, at times, painful and challenging, and can still sometimes be complex, and in many ways complicated, and yet, always has been and still is, oh so rewarding. It is my hope that you will find inspiration and whatever else you may be here reading for that will enable you to unlock that soul force inside of you that you may still be living somewhat disconnected from. Integrating with that soul force, with your authentic self is what makes the difference between pain and suffering. I say this because the beauty of life and all its challenges lies within the paradox of pain and joy. In life, there is no perfection. If we are open to joy we must also be open to pain. Without pain we could not know joy and visa versa.”

“My life has unfolded for me through and from all of my pain, all of my losses, the abandonment, the rejection, the abuse, and more importantly the journey to self-acceptance and peace of Self Mastery and Emotional Mastery that has lead me to discover profound understanding and give meaning to an on-going journey of transformation that yields peace, promise, passion, and purpose within the richness of the experience of all that is ever-unfolding and paradoxical in my life.

All that I have learned in my life and all that I apply from those lessons to all that I write about and to my life coaching comes from a desire to pay-foward the blessings of my journey in helping others in their life and healing journeys.

I still live with, and actually thrive now, as the result of the paradox of difference when it comes to having Asperger’s Syndrome. Having Asperger’s Syndrome is an incredible strength for me both personally and professionally in terms of my capacity to take in information and process it in ways that help me to then explain aspects of things that others are still trying to understand in ways that are very helpful to others. I think outside of the box. I am able to easily and quickly identify patterns in people’s thinking, habits, blocks to their goals and so much more in life, generally. It is just my nature, however, to be very introspective about what that really means in my life and to, of course, push myself to the edge of my limits so that I can continue to gain more insight – to know more and understand more.

I have learned, the hard way, that challenges and differences are really blessings and gifts. When we choose to be open to them through an attitude of gratitude that stems from an awareness that so much in life is what it is because it comes to teach us what each one of us, on our own individual journey, need to know more about to continue to grow and be more fully authentic. There is such a profound promise, passion, and purpose to my life, to your life, and it is up to each one of us to cultivate and nurture that within self.

As you will realize, if you don’t already know this about me, I love to write. I also very much feel that I have a responsibility to pay-forward the incredible blessings that all of the challenges of my experience so far have taught me and given me an interesting amount of insight about.