Say Thank You – Coaching Tip of the Day

“The universe is not vindictive, it is corrective.” Have you ever had one or more painful experiences over and over and over again. Something that triggers you and that you feel so hurt by? Something that others say to you that leaves you feeling so wounded, so criticized, and so judged? Something that calls out a difference you in you? Do you continue to wonder why? How do you react?

Do you get angry and then feel hurt? Do you lash out and try to hurt the other person back? Do you want revenge or justice? Do you feel victimized? Wounded? Do you sit with the pain but turn it inward against yourself?

When certain triggering or painful experiences of criticism and judgment via the words of another pierce you in such a way it may seem abusive, punishing, or vindictive. Who knows what a human being saying intolerant things to you is really doing or why. However, where there is a theme that you may experience in the unfriendly words of differing others over time what you need to know is that there is a purposeful message trying to teach you something.

Something that is way beyond where the message comes from. Something way beyond the person who might have just gotten angry, mean, or hurtful with you in words. The words other people choose to use really speak volumes about who they are more than they really have anything to do with the person the words are aimed at.

Wisdom is afoot in these experiences. From what may be a negative or stressful interaction complete with negative and unkind words from another person that seem to just be about hurting you, that seem so unfair, comes incredible growth opportunity.

In just this type of situation – something many refer to as a “triggered moment” it is important to radically accept what is unfolding in a mindful way. To hear it. To not judge it. To not react to it. To let it sit inside of you. To experience it. For it is only this experience that can lead you to the questions you need to ask yourself about your feelings and thoughts that will guide you to wisdom that the universe means for you to be able to grasp through such otherwise, in human terms, “negative experience”.

Are you open to learning or are you too busy defending against old hurts and pain? You cannot protect and learn at the same time. You need to choose one or the other. Being open and ready to learn means having an attitude of gratitude and saying thank you to the universe for all experience. In order to evolve we must say thank you for everything – not just what we may want or feel gratified by – but everything. Say thank you. Say thank you from an open honest, spiritual, mindful and radically accepting place inside. Say thank you from the center of your spiritual authenticity.

“I don’t feel that this universe is vindictive, it is corrective.” Even what “… seems to be punishment  is an act of Grace” - Mooji

 

 ”Some things rub and squeeze and grind you that you don’t say thank you for. But they alter your being in such a way that it brings wisdom into your experience. Rarely are we thankful for that.” – Mooji

Mooji is a direct disciple of Sri Harilal Poonja (Papaji), whose master is the renowned Sri Ramana Maharshi, the ‘Sage of Arunachala.’ Mooji lives in Brixton, London

© A.J. Mahari, April 26, 2010 – All rights reserved.

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