3 Building Blocks of Emotional Competence
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Emotional competence is the foundation upon which emotional mastery is achieved. Emotional competence has 3 main building blocks. Housed within our ability to actively engage our own emotional mastery is the degree to which we are awake, aware, and authentic. Emotional competence is a process and journey that engages emotional mastery in steps that can be positively supported in and through the life coaching process.
3 Building Blocks of Emotional Competence
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Awakening
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Awareness
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Authenticity
Awakening
Awakening involves actively engaging and connecting to the Self inside of you. It means being fully engaged with 3 principles of successful healthy living:
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Personal Responsibility
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Choice
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Empowerment
Personal responsibility, choice, and empowerment are closely related. Each is a key ingredient of what is needed to awaken from distractions, denial, doubts, and avoidance. It is the distractions, denial, doubts, and avoidance that fuel emotional chaos and emotional suffering. No one, in adulthood, is an unwilling victim. You really do experience what you choose. In order to choose wisely you will benefit from awakening to what you are actually feeling, thinking, and believing.
Awareness
Awareness of the Self inside is key. Awareness that each of us has a false self and an authentic self within us. Do you know which one is dominant in you? Which one is taking the lead in your life? Self-awareness involves 3 principles of engagement:
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Conscious attention paid to your strengths and your weaknesses
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An active and engaging openness to feedback, opinions of others, willingness to learn from “mistakes”
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Meaningful consistent mindful practice – self-forgiveness – idenifying goals and values
Being consciously aware of your strengths and weaknesses, in balance, will enable you to know much more about yourself – what you are thinking and how you are feeling and why. Being open to feedback, the opinions of others, and having a willingness to learn from the “mistakes” that are the harbingers of growth opportunities is how you can learn to flex your psychological, emotional, and spiritual muscles of aware composure that sustains a positive attitude even in the most stressful moments you will encounter. Mindfulness is a vehicle of awareness. It is necessary to learn to forgive yourself so that you can forgive others. Being unable or unwilling to forgive, both self and others, blocks the flow of much-needed positive energy inside of you. Energy that you need to apply to the process of identifying your goals and values. Goals and values that will consistently and congruently guide your understanding of your core values in ways that will help you to further your awareness of that authentic Self inside of you on the journey of your emotional mastery.
Authenticity
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An aware view and keen understanding of the big picture that is your life unfolding
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Attention paid to your core values and their pivotal role making decisions and choices
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Postive attitude of optimism – being persistent in pursuing goals despite challenges and setbacks
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