Top 5 Soul's Thought of The Day For May 2002
Top 5 Soul's Thought of The Day For May 2002
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SOUL'S THOUGHT OF THE DAY
Volume Four - Issue #5 -#1/Make Lemonade...
By Ms. A.J. Mahari (aka soul)
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Don't you just love that old cliche, "When the world hands
you some lemons, make lemonade?" Well it's one that can
either inspire us to take another look at our thoughts or
point of view or it can be dismissed out of hand.
I think it has merit. Every day can't be the day we'd wish it
to be. Some days are definitely more difficult than others.
Some days we find our way to actual living. Other days we
must cope to merely survive.
For some reason, lately, in my own experience, I have
become more aware of those "well, just find a way to make
lemonade" kind of reactions to the less than relaxing days
I've had recently.
In my case the lack of relaxing days has been due to a
big increase in my workload and struggling to accomplish
more while at the same time continue to find the time to
process many changes that are unfolding in my life.
So, making lemonade, in a search for balance, I find, is
one very positive way to purposefully stay out of old
past negative patterns of thought and behaviour.
What making lemonade, in this metaphor, means to you
is likely not the same thing that it means to others. Each
one of us has to identify what our lemonade would be.
Lemonade is often a compromise between that which we've
known and reacted to and that which we are learning and
trying to better cope with the newness of. Transition is an
on-going part of life. Change often appears to hand us
lemons as it first challenges us to grow.
When life hands you the kind of challenge that you would
define as a being a lemon, stopping right there and saying
to yourself in a playful way, "I'm just going to have to make
some more lemonade" can interrupt what might otherwise
be a very negative, self-depreciating and devaluing pattern
of thought.
When the world (or any situation) has handed you lemons
making lemonade is the way to quench the thirst of change.
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Thought of The Day for Wednesday, May 1, 2002
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SOUL'S THOUGHT OF THE DAY
Volume Four - Issue #5 -#2/Define Yourself...
By Ms. A.J. Mahari (aka soul)
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Others seek to define you. Bosses, teachers, therapists,
parents, friends, lovers, they may all seek to one degree
or another to define you. If you aren't careful and aware
you may just start believing the definitions (judgments
and so forth) that others place upon you. No one knows
you like you do.
Define yourself. Dare to be different. Be who you are.
Be yourself. Integrity must be found, tapped into, defined
and lived from the inside out. Only you can truly know
what is in your heart, soul and mind. Define yourself.
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Thought of The Day for Friday, May 3, 2002
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SOUL'S THOUGHT OF THE DAY
Volume Four - Issue #5 -#3/Do your best...
By Ms. A.J. Mahari (aka soul)
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Strive to do your best. Be kind and gentle to yourself
when assessing just what you think your best is. No
one is perfect. Keep realistic goals.
At times it may seem easier to do less, care
less, or not try to do all that you do to the very best
of your ability. In the long run there is way more
pain than gain in this mind-set. Be positive.
Strive to do your best -- anything less is misery.
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Thought of The Day for Tuesday, May 7, 2002
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SOUL'S THOUGHT OF THE DAY
Volume Four - Issue #5 -#4/Success Is the Best Revenge...
By Ms. A.J. Mahari (aka soul)
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Strive though we might to do our best conflict is a part
of life. Strive though we might to avoid it, it often appears
when we least feel able to deal with it. Being assertive,
setting and holding boundaries can be challenging.
However, having well-expressed and practiced boundaries
can eliminate a lot of needless conflict.
So, perhaps no matter how well you've handled your
boundaries with yourself and others you still find
yourself in conflict or with difficult feelings toward someone.
Perhaps you feel wronged. Sooner or later this too is a part
of life that we have to live through and rise to the challenge
of.
It is natural to want to win. It is natural to want to be right.
Often we feel that if we aren't seen to be right we aren't
understood. This is not always the case. We can be
understood and not agreed with. Just as we can understand
others and not agree with them. This is part of give and
take.
When there is a breakdown in this give and take and
conflict arises, often feelings get very hurt. If one cannot
express that hurt, it can fester. It can build.
Often then, with or without being aware, we want to "get
back" at the person, group, or situation that we feel so
misunderstood and wronged by.
Remember though, revenge is toxic. It will only lead to
more pain.
Truly, the best revenge is success.
Being who you are. Doing what you do best. Taking
care of yourself. Celebrating your accomplishments
and enduring your defeats with dignity is the
success that is the best revenge.
Never go out of your way to harm anyone else.
The seed you plant is the seed you will sow.
Success is truly the best revenge.
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Thought of The Day for Tuesday, May 21, 2002
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SOUL'S THOUGHT OF THE DAY
Volume Four - Issue #5 -#5/Somewhere...
By Ms. A.J. Mahari (aka soul)
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Every where is somewhere. Often we have doubts about
what we are doing versus what we might not be doing.
It can be difficult to wonder if you are where you are
supposed to be. Most people, in life, worry that they
aren't going to get to where they want to go.
Want to be where you are. Know that where you are
is somewhere. Where you are is where you "be".
Just be. Just be sometimes. Don't always be so
focused on what you do. Just be.
The very place that you are, right now, is somewhere.
More importantly, it is your somewhere. Enjoy it.
Make the most of out of it. By all means if your somewhere
seems like a lemon right now -- make lemonade!
Acceptance is nine-tenths of the battle.
You are somewhere. You are where you are with reason
and cause. Trust that.
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Thought of The Day for Wednesday, May 22, 2002
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