The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond by Patricia Evans

Are you now, or have you ever been, in relationships with family, friends, or mates who have been verbally abusive? Is your happiness with someone you love continually threatened by interactions that continually undermine your self-esteem? Do you feel trapped in a relationship that keeps decaying in a downward spiral of overt or passive-aggressive abuse?

Controlling People How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You by Patricia Evans

A timely book that not only helps readers free themselves from controlling types but also seeks to explain the occurrence of verbal abuse, battering, stalking, harassment, hate crimes, gang violence, tyranny, terrorism, and territorial invasion

Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You By Susan Forward (Author), Donna Frazier (Author)

Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets. They are our mothers, our partners, our bosses and coworkers, our friends and our lovers. And no matter how much they care about us, they use this intimate knowledge to give themselves the payoff they want: our compliance.

Why Is It Always About You? Saving Yourself from the Narcissists in Your Life by Sandy Hotchkiss (Author), James F. Masterson

Beginning with an explanation of what has become one of the foremost personality types of our time, Sandy Hotchkiss describes what she calls the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, and Bad Boundaries -- and where they come from. You will learn to recognize the hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism in its many guises and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in its creation.

Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse by by Gregory L. Jantz, Ann McMurray (Contributor), Ann McMurray Revell

In this provocative book, Dr. Gregory Jantz examines the pervasive yet overlooked problem of emotional abuse-and why it is so common and damaging. Whether you or a loved one has been abused by words, actions, or even indifference, this book will help you understand the effects of the abuse, give you insight into the problems of the abuser, and show you how to overcome the past.

Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity by Marie-France Hirigoyen, Helen Marx (Afterword), Thomas Moore (Translator)

Claiming that emotionally abusive relationships are widespread in marriages, families and the workplace, French psychotherapist Hirigoyen illuminates the subtle, insidious relationship that "emotional abusers" and their "victims" evolve. While recognizing that the "clean violence" of an emotional abuserAwho as a "natural manipulator" often attracts others with a dynamic, winning styleAis hard to prove, she aims to enable those who are being abused to recognize what's going on and get help, and to alert her fellow therapists to the danger signs. Often, emotional abuse builds over a long period of time until it becomes so unbearable that victims lash out in frustration and anger, only to appear unstable and aggressive themselves.

The Secret of Overcoming Verbal Abuse: Getting Off the Emotional Roller Coaster and Regaining Control of Your Life by Albert Ellis, Marcia Grad Powers

The techniques for dealing with abusive relationships are given in the later chapters. They are standard Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy methods. They won't let you get away with a "Poor me, why did this have to happen to me?" type attitude. Ultimately, you only get the behaviour that you tolerate.

The Emotionally Abused Woman : Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself by M.F.C.C. Beverly Engel (Author)

If you feel unfairly criticized, controlled by others, or are afraid of being lonely, you could be suffering from emotional abuse. Now there is help in this compassionate sourcebook. Bevery Engel, a marriage, family, and child therapist, guides you through a step-by-step recovery process to help you heal the damage done in the past.

Emotional Abuse : The Trauma and the Treatment by Marti Tamm Loring (Author)

Emotional Abuse breaks new ground in describing this little understood and acknowledged form of interpersonal mistreatment. Loring describes both overt and covert emotional abuse and makes crucial linkages to other types of abuse as well. Her intervention strategies are grounded in relational theory and give the therapist a practical approach to the assessment and treatment of the emotionally abused client.

The Mother I Carry: A Memoir of Healing from Emotional Abuse by Louise M. Wisechild

This is a great book for anyone who feels alone in their emotions. It is well worth the time it took me to read the book. I would recommend this book for anyone who has ever been abused by someone they loved so much.

Silently Seduced : When Parents Make their Children Partners - Understanding Covert Incest by Kenneth Adams (Author)

When a parent's love for a child is more expecting than giving, more jealous than trusting, the child can become trapped in a "psychological marriage" with the parent, becoming a victim of covert incest. Identification of this problem is often difficult, for the victim often feels idealized and privileged rather than abused. Dr. Adams provides a framework for beginning a process of recovery.

The Abusive Personality: Violence and Control in Intimate Relationships by Donald G. Dutton (Author)

the best study of the male abuser in print. It is startling in the depth of understanding it displays of one particular type of male batterer, the puzzling man who abuses his domestic partner but appears to have no difficulty controlling his anger with others. Dutton's current understanding of the abusive personality is informed by prodigious research of his own, informed appreciation of the work of others, and a personal intellectual journey of discovery....this is an important book that can be of real value to all professionals concerned with the problem of domestic violence.

as of March 6, 2004