Self Help Psychology

Whether you have a mental illness, personality disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, love and care about someone who does, or whether you are stressed out, often anxious, or if you have been sexually abused or had a traumatic or even a merely difficult up-bringing (most have some wounds from childhood) or consider yourself to be healthy and just fine Radical Acceptance can and will enhance your overall quality of life and your spiritual experience in and of everyday life.

Those with personality disorders either are not able to, or have tremendous difficulty, with the dialectical dyad of healthy relating. Personality disordered individuals are for the most part very black and white. They live in painful inner-worlds of dissociative split-off opposites.

Contrary to the myth that women are only abused by men, some lesbian women abuse their female partners. Lesbian abusers perpetrate violence, and all types of abuse. Lesbian abusers perpetrate sexual abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, domestic violence, financial and spiritual abuse upon their intimates.

One of the most paralyzing aspects of any mental illness is the toxic shame that so many are burdened with as the result of society’s general lack of understanding, knowledge and compassion. When one is mentally ill and has it constantly mirrored back to them that is shameful and negative in the eyes of society if can be more than just difficult, it can be almost impossible, for those who are mentally ill to not internalize this misinformed attitude. Internalized shame is toxic by its very nature.

Self help is very beneficial to many for as many reasons as there are individuals partaking of self help. Author and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari strongly advocates for self help in the process of self improvement and healing.

There are many myths and there is much misinformation about verbal abuse. Verbal abuse is not anything to be taken lightly. Verbal abuse is abuse. You do not have to be hit to be abused. Verbal abuse has profound and long-lasting effects on self-esteem and on emotional and physical health. It needs to be taken seriously.

Abusers are impostors to the reality of who they are. They wear a the mask of charming when really they are insecure and controlling. Abusers wear the masks necessary to get their own way. Masks of charm, masks of rage, masks of caring, and masks of competence – all to hide who they are.

Those who are verbally, sexually, physically, and/or emotionally abused in childhood often end up in abusive relationships and either suffering more abuse or being abusive themselves. Why? Patterns and unresolved and unfinished business are two of the main reasons.

Radical Acceptance practice in Borderline Personality Disorder begins as a way to learn how to tolerate emotional distress and can progress to being implemented as a very effective way of coping in healthier ways that will lead to the actual soothing of what used to be emotional distress that felt intolerable.

Are more people experiencing mental health problems or do we just happen to live in an insane world? Do we just read more, hear more, and know more about these issues now? We do don’t we? I mean, as a global society, we are paying attention and we do care right? Where could this increase of mental health issues and problems be coming from?