Codependence is a mindset that is at the core of toxic relating and toxic, enmeshed, relationships. It is mindest that leads people, often without being aware of it, to try to get their needs met by and/or through others. Neediness permeates what are weak boundaries to begin with. On one side of the toxic, emeshed, codependent relationship is the needy person. On the other is the person who ends up trying to meet insatiable needs.  

 

 

Life Coaching for Codependence Concerns

Coping with Difficult Toxic and/or Abusive People

Codependent, toxic and enmeshed relating is a dynamic. It is an emotional and relational dance. A very painful one for either side of the toxic mix. It is a dynamic and dance that really does take two to tango. Each person in a codependent dynamic has to first become aware of the choices he or she is making. Secondly, then, each will benefit from examining  his or her own choices. You can lose yourself to over-focusing on someone else and then end up feeling angry about it. At the core of this toxic reality is not owning one’s own choices – not taking personal responsibility – on both sides of the dance. You can’t fix anyone. You can, however, empower yourself to get healthier and “fix” yourself. You can create positive healthy change in your own life. That’s the awesome possibility and responsibility you are losing by continuing to choose the codependent mindset which is essentially the victim mindset.

©  A.J. Mahari, February 2, 2010 – All rights reserved.

 

 

 

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