Self Help Psychology

Grief is what it is. Grief is a part of life. Grief is a process that unfolds whenever we suffer, experience, or feel loss. Some reasons for grief are obvious – the death of a loved one, loss of a job or relationship, for example. Reasons for grief can be subtle – unfinished emotional baggage from childhood interfering with goal identification and achievement in the here and now, for example. Life Coach, A.J. Mahari outlines 7 keys that help the grief process and 7 keys that hinder the process of grieving.

I have had pets most of my adult life. We have laws that require us to vaccinate our pets. Our vets remind us yearly that our pets require vaccinations. I have now had two very bad experiences with pets and vaccinations. One was years ago and it cost my cat his life. One is on-going right now with my puppy, Buffy, currently, and suddenly after having her second set of vaccinations at just 12 weeks of age became lame, had a fever, swollen paws – diagnosis – Hypertrophic Osteodystrophy (HOD). In Buffy’s case it is highly suspected, even by my Vet, that Buffy’s HOD (or HOD-like illness) is a reaction to her last set of vaccinations. Are vaccinations, as recommended by most vets helpful or harmful?

There is stigma attached to both mental illness and suicide. Therefore, on top of what people feel by the time they are in crisis, there is the double bind of shame that leads so many to suffer quietly until they cannot bear what they feel any longer.

The key to recovery from so many things that you may carry with you into adulthood from childhood is your inner-child. Whether you have Bordelrine Personality Disorder or you have been abused, or you have issues of abandonment from your childhood reaching back, reaching inside to that wounded and hurting little girl or boy inside of you is one of the most rewarding aspects of any journey of recovery.

Whether you have a mental illness, personality disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, love and care about someone who does, or whether you are stressed out, often anxious, or if you have been sexually abused or had a traumatic or even a merely difficult up-bringing (most have some wounds from childhood) or consider yourself to be healthy and just fine Radical Acceptance can and will enhance your overall quality of life and your spiritual experience in and of everyday life.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder has become synonymous with pejorative vilifying stereotypes that paint everyone diagnosed with it along with others with varying degrees of narcissism as monstrous people without worth. Rarely, in life, is the sum total of any human being with a personality disorder or not that simple or that black and white. Narcissists are in pain. Their humanity must be recognized.

Those with personality disorders either are not able to, or have tremendous difficulty, with the dialectical dyad of healthy relating. Personality disordered individuals are for the most part very black and white. They live in painful inner-worlds of dissociative split-off opposites.

Contrary to the myth that women are only abused by men, some lesbian women abuse their female partners. Lesbian abusers perpetrate violence, and all types of abuse. Lesbian abusers perpetrate sexual abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, domestic violence, financial and spiritual abuse upon their intimates.

Meditation is now the IN thing. Cross-legged yogis and Buddhist monks can be seen in advertisements for everything from computers and credit cards to herbal teas, major newspapers and magazines carry stories on the benefits of meditation with tips from famous film stars, and no self-respecting bookshop is without a how-to-meditate section.

One of the most paralyzing aspects of any mental illness is the toxic shame that so many are burdened with as the result of society’s general lack of understanding, knowledge and compassion. When one is mentally ill and has it constantly mirrored back to them that is shameful and negative in the eyes of society if can be more than just difficult, it can be almost impossible, for those who are mentally ill to not internalize this misinformed attitude. Internalized shame is toxic by its very nature.